Merita M.
If you’re looking for a therapist who shows up attentive, non-judgmental, is warm AND relatable, choose James!!… James was amazing at navigating the many cultural and religious layers… With his support I’ve been able to reclaim my power, my voice… Therapy has been my most valuable investment.
Adele C.
Having struggled to build positive relationships with men, I was worried about working with a man. My fears were quickly waylaid. James is genuine, trustworthy, judgmental, and extremely kind. With his guidance, I have begun to heal in a way I never thought possible. I could not recommend him more highly.
Steve M.
James is a brilliant therapist. He’s has an incredibly calming presence and clearly has a lot of experience. Nothing fazes him, his responses are always measured and insightful, and I left every session with an enormous sense of clarity. Thank you James for offering such a non-judgemental space.
Katlin N.
James… has had such a huge impact on myself and on my relationship… I can not believe how far I have become… Your approach, the way that you take interest and CARE is something I have never seen before… I am forever grateful… Highly recommending James.
Remember how it felt when it was the two of you, a team against the world? When you felt unbreakable—when laughter, warmth, and passion filled every moment. You felt wanted, completely, without hesitation. It was okay to need, and okay not to. Loneliness was banished. No matter what happened, you stood beside each other, making it safe to feel everything fully—love, desire, hope, ambition.
Sex wasn’t something you just did; it was a celebration of who you were to each other.
Then, distance crept in. Your spark didn’t feel quite the same anymore, leaving you lost—even like strangers sometimes. You found yourselves trapped in cycles of silence, misunderstanding, or conflict. Maybe it’s gone further, to distrust, broken promises, or quiet thoughts that perhaps you'd both be happier starting over with someone else. One of you feels pressured, the other rejected. Hurt quietly lingers beneath it all.
You're both trying—but somehow, the harder you try, the more you go round in circles.
You both know something needs to change—but it's hard to know where to begin, or how to see it through alone.
My approach to couples therapy—and specifically sex therapy—is built on genuine connection, mutual respect, and an unwavering commitment to guiding couples who are ready for meaningful change.
We’ll be a great fit if you:
Are ready to invest in yourself—and in the relationship you want
You care deeply about your relationship. I’ll honor that with you—and guide you through every step of the work.
Seek clarity, structure, and practical steps that work
I’ll help you focus on what actually works—and we’ll find practical, doable ways to bring those changes into your life.
Care about intimacy and connection (not just sex or performance)
We’ll create a space where openness feels possible—and use it to build real, lasting reconnection.
Desire lasting change, not just a temporary fix
Real change takes time—but I’ll help you stay focused, grounded, and supported as you create something that lasts.
Commit to open and honest self-reflection—even if it's not always easy
We'll identify the core issues together, and take it one layer at a time—with guidance, and without being overwhelming.
Want to build a better future, not just restore an already-lived past
We’ll honor where you’ve been, but focus clearly on creating something new—moving you forward with intention, clarity, and hope.
Taking the first step can feel big—but it doesn't have to be complicated. You've read this far—you know you want things to change. You're always in control, and I'll guide you compassionately every step of the way. You don't need to have everything figured out—just enough courage for this first gentle step. I'll be right there with you.
Schedule Your Free Call
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We’ll begin with a short, friendly, 30-minute phone conversation. We’ll briefly explore your needs and how I can help. There is no pressure to commit.
Personalised Assessment (After your call)
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I’ll meet with each of you individually to deeply understand each partner. We’ll then meet together in a couples session to clearly identify patterns, needs, and goals.
Create your Clear Action Plan
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During the couples session we discuss and agree practical next steps tailored specifically to you. This will allow us to move forward confidently, at a pace that feels comfortable to you.
Reignite Your Passion
Passion returns to your sex life, and intimacy becomes something you both look forward to, instead of avoiding.
Supported Every Step
You no longer have to work it out yourself. I’ll walk every step of the road with you.
Rediscover Warmth & Touch
You become tactile again, feeling warmth, and closeness. You learn how to passion-map each other’s bodies and enjoy them fully.
Stop Feeling Guilty
You don’t feel guilty either needing intimacy or saying no anymore. You build love and understanding for mixed libidos.
Disagree Without Fear
You learn communication skills that will empower your love and safeguard your bond.
End Criticism & Judgement
You feel safe, and know that you’ll never be judged or painfully criticised by your partner.
Power Through Shared Vulnerabilty
Your partner becomes your safe space to openly share your true feelings, desires, and fears.
Friendship Meets Desire
Your partner is your best friend, but also the person you deeply desire intimately.
Restored Trust
No matter what happened, you rebuild trust, openness, and embrace a culture of radical honesty.
Whether you speak with me, or with someone else, don’t wait and jeopardise the bond you have. It’s not about whether your relationship is broken to the point of needing couples or sex therapy. It’s about whether it’s important enough to treasure, to hold on to in this one life we have.
I know it’s not easy to talk about intimacy, especially if it feels like it would risk arguments or bring up hidden hurts. I understand why you might hesitate. Maybe you’re afraid your partner isn’t ready, or worried about making things worse instead of better.
But, here’s what I know from walking this road with hundreds of others:
Taking the first step isn’t weakness—it’s courage.
We’ll move at your pace. There doesn’t need to be any discomfort.
This process is safe, judgement-free, and deeply respectful of both of you.
Avoiding the conversation might feel easier today, but stepping into it together is the only way true closeness returns.
Remember, you don’t have to be completely ready. You just need to be ready enough to start. I’ll be right here with you, every step of the way.
Let’s start small, gently, together. Change begins the moment you decide it’s time.
Therapy requires courage—especially around intimacy. I can’t guarantee instant results (no ethical therapist or coach can), because real change requires genuine commitment from both of us.
But here’s what I can promise:
I’ll show up completely, openly, and compassionately for every session.
You’ll get my full honesty, guidance, and care, tailored exactly to your needs. No fluff, just truth.
You’ll never face judgement, blame, or shame.
Together, we’ll clearly identify the real issues and practical ways forward.
I’ll provide you with the exact tools, clarity, and support you need to succeed.
You won’t ever feel alone in this process—I’ll walk every step with you. Your relationship deserves clarity, care, and practical solutions that genuinely work—and that’s exactly what you’ll receive.
Ready for change?
There’s no hard sell. Simply, an invitation to arrange a call with me to see if we’re a good fit. It’s a first step to reclaiming the closeness and passion you both need to thrive.
It’s a small step, but one that may just change your life.
